So… what do you DO all day?

We do things… and stuff.

23 February 2009 February 24, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — keekahoney @ 4:54 am

There is still not a lot happening around our house.  It’s okay though, because I think we are all going through a period of low energy, and it’s nice that we are all on the same wavelength.  If one of us had high energy right now I think it would be really tough on all of us.

This weekend I went to a parenting conference while my Dad watched Bailey.  Dr. Gabor Mate was the keynote speaker, and at the end we all got one of his books for free!  There were three workshops.  I attended “Managing and Enjoying Mealtimes,” “Discipline That Teaches,” and “When The Body Says No.”  All were well done, but I think I could have skipped the one about discipline, as it was more geared towards why discipline was more effective and empowering than punishment.  They were preaching to the choir on that one!

The whole day got me thinking about my parenting style, and got me thinking about ways I could improve my attachment to Bailey.  I know that even though I have practiced attachment parenting as much as I could that I have seriously screwed up sometimes.  All I can do is keep doing my best though, and hope that Bailey will do an even better job with her own kids.  My mother and grandmother had next to no parenting skills because they went through the Residential School system, so I am actually quite proud of what I have been able to overcome.

We had church on Sunday, and I had two stories to tell the children.  The first was Stone Soup, which I read to them because next service we will be making Stone Soup for the congregation with whatever ingredients the congregation members think to bring.  The second was a new storybox called “The Wise People and the Elephant.”  It is very similar to this story.

After church we decided to go to McDonald’s for a treat.  Bailey was supposed to go to a movie with her grandma but her grandma’s back was hurting her too much.  I had hoped to go on a coffee date with Steve while Bailey was at the movie, so instead we went to the McDonald’s that had a playground so Bailey could play while we visited.  Ugh, I have been eating extremely well for the past month and a half and that burger and fries sat like a lump in my stomach until I went to bed last night! 

Today we went for coffee with Bailey’s auntie, who is expecting a baby in April.  Her baby bump is noticeably smaller than mine… but then again, whose isn’t?  I am Humongo!  Watch as I devour this village!  Cower before me as I threaten to sit on you!  Seriously, after coffee I caught my reflection in a store’s window and couldn’t believe how big my belly was.  Thankfully it’s obviously a pregnancy belly, though.  The rest of me looks fairly normal.

One last thing that I found neat:  Bailey knows what the word segue means!  She brought it up earlier and I thought she was talking about Segways, but then she said, “no, like when you want to change the conversation to something else you can use a segue.”  I’m so glad she’s a word nerd like me.  Yesterday she was playing with Dictionary.com, using the speech function to make it say words like “fart,” “poop,” and “antidisestablishmentarianism.”  XD

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Look out!  It’s Humongo!

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The belly today.  (28 weeks, 5 days.)

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19 February 2009 February 20, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — keekahoney @ 1:27 am

Huh.  I don’t know what to write.  We’ve had a very uneventful few days.

On Monday Mom had a follow-up appointment with her family doctor and we all went with her.  My sister had done some research and found that one of Mom’s new pain meds had a 1-7% chance of causing amnesia, so the doctor took her off of it just in case.

Tuesday I did my Blood Glucose Test at the hospital, and Bailey stayed with my mom.

Yesterday we did some grocery shopping.  Late last night we found out that my Employment Insurance claim had finally gone through, and I should be expecting some money soon.  Thank goodness!  We were getting very close to having to think about what we would do if we got evicted.

Today was Steve’s day off, and we went to the Attachment Parenting playgroup.  Then we did some grocery shopping, and some work around the house.

See?  A totally uneventful few days! 

Bailey doesn’t seem to mind though.  We’ve all been a little under the weather.  Not sick, really, but minor sore throats, sinus pain, and headaches.

I’ve noticed that Bailey is spending less time with electronic entertainment, and more time playing with her dolls in her room.  She is still reading a lot, too, which is great.  This morning I was reading Sandra Dodd’s blog and when Bailey saw her name she got very excited.  She ran to her room and brought me one of her library books.  Inside, Sandra had a blurb called Homemade Playground Maps about making maps to buried treasure in a playground.  (The book is The Ultimate Book of Homeschooling Ideas: 500+ Fun and Creative Learning Activities by Linda Dobson.  Bailey took it out of the library, not me, lol.)  I thought it was neat that she recognized the name so readily.

Yesterday I also started my own “ning” group.  Ning is a site that allows people to make their own online social networking group.  It’s the same site that hosts RUN, the Radical Unschoolers Network.  Here’s a link to mine if you’re interested: Secular Homeschoolers of Kamloops.

…And that’s it, really.

 

15 February 2009 February 16, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — keekahoney @ 7:05 am

So the rest of the weekend turned out to be incredibly busy! 

Shortly after I posted yesterday’s blog I got a call from my youngest sister who is 17.  Our mom was out of town for the weekend, but my sister had just taken a call from our mom’s friend who was bringing her back to Kamloops to the hospital, suspecting that she may have had a stroke.

I told Bailey that we had to hurry to the hospital because my mom was sick and she quickly gathered up some books and games to occupy herself.  Then I called my other sister and within 20 minutes we were all at the hospital, crowding into their tiny triage area. 

Mom was very confused.  She kept asking where she was, how she got there, and who brought her there.  Her face wasn’t drooping, though, and she was able to answer most of the intake nurse’s questions.  She could identify objects and knew who her family was.

Even though it means a ridiculously long wait, I like it when they triage me or my family as a 3, because it means that we aren’t actually in any imminent danger.  However, they must have triaged Mom as a 1 because she got in right away.  My middle sister went in first, but I got to come in a bit later.  They did a CT scan, blood work, and an EEG.  This is how it went:

Mom: Where is this?  Are we in Kamloops?

Us: Yes, we’re in Royal Inland Hospital.

Mom: I don’t even remember getting here.

Us: Your friend brought you.  You were in Merritt.

Mom: Oh?  I must have had too much fun.  I must be having a stroke.  My mom had a stroke.

Us: Well, they’re running tests.  We don’t know for sure what is happening yet.

Mom: My head hurts.  Where are we?  Is this Kamloops?

Us: Yes…

… and repeat this.  Over and over again.  Intersperse it with:

Mom: What day is it?

Us: It’s February 14th.

Mom: Whaaat?

At one point my sister offered me the chair, saying, “Here, you sit.  You’re the pregnant one,” and my mom said, “Whaaat?  That’s wonderful!  When were you planning on telling me this?”  It’s funny now, but when it happened I nearly had to leave because it upset me so much.

Eventually the test results came back, and the doctor told us Mom was not having a stroke, or any kind of heart or circulation-related trauma at all.  She had Transient Global Amnesia.  He explained it further, “Have you ever seen the movie ’50 First Dates’?  Remember 10-Second Tom?  Well, that’s your mom, only it won’t last forever.  This should be over within 24 hours.”

Weird!

There was nothing they could do, no reason for her to stay in hospital.  We were instructed to take her home, stay with her, and answer her questions over and over again until her memory came back.  She would likely never remember the day’s events, as her brain was like a one or two minute long segment of videotape that was constantly being rewound and recorded over.

Mom’s friend and my youngest sister took her home, and I promised to come over once Steve was off work.  When we got there she seemed to be doing a little better already.  She didn’t remember Steve, and she kept asking my due date, but she wasn’t asking questions every minute anymore.  Her memory seemed to have increased to 5 minutes.  We didn’t spend the night, but we stopped by late this morning to check on her, and she seemed tired and muddled, but otherwise totally normal again.

That was probably the weirdest thing I have ever witnessed.  I am so glad that it will likely never recur, and I am even gladder that it was not a stroke.

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Mom, the day before the wedding (July 4, 2008).

After we made sure Mom was okay, we went over to our friend’s house for the first meeting of the Secular Homeschoolers of Kamloops (that’s the working name anyway).  What a turnout!  There were some families there who I’d met through RUN, and some families who were already part of the Attachment Parenting Group that my friend hosts.  Altogether there were 14 adults and 10 kids ranging in age from a few months to 9 years old.  If everyone had brought all their kids there probably would have been another 8-10 kids, easily.

I hadn’t really had a set plan for the meeting.  I mostly wanted to get people together and see what would transpire.  I think (?) it was a success.  There were a lot of unschoolers there, which was fantastic, and we were able to answer questions from parents who were still unsure about what they wanted for their children.  Well, the more experienced unschoolers were able to answer questions.  I mostly sat and absorbed the knowledge!

Bailey enjoyed herself immensely.  It’s about time she got to meet some kindred spirits!

I’m not sure what to do for a next step.  I want desperately to meet with everyone again and again, though, so hopefully others are of the same mindset.

… and that was our weekend.

 

14 February 2009 February 14, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — keekahoney @ 7:19 pm

Happy Valentine’s Day and happy V-Day

Bailey woke us up this morning with a sweet gift for me.  she decorated a shoe box, and filled it with some cards, a Gingy toy and some silk flowers from my wedding.  She even wrote a poem!  Then she made me coffee and brought it to me in bed.  Woohoo!

Unfortunately, all of our babysitting plans fell through, and Steve is working overtime tonight anyway, so it looks like our first Valentine’s Day as a married couple will consist of sitting around the house as usual.  Oh well, maybe we can do something later this week.

Yesterday I went to a La Leche League meeting, and Bailey went swimming with her grandma.  Afterwards, we went to my sister’s house and Bailey played with her 4-year-old cousin.  My sister got Bailey a cool little activity book called Yamodo! that is right up her alley.  Writing and drawing… perfect!

Last night was pretty rough for me, physically.  I had a contraction that actually brought tears to my eyes.  I don’t really know why I teared up.  Sure, the contractions are uncomfortable, but if it was real labour I’d manage just fine.  I think it’s the fear and the exhaustion that makes them so hard to bear right now.  I have been through a month and a half of this now, and every time I get a really bad one I worry about the baby. 

It looks like the sun is coming out today, so maybe Bailey and I will go for another walk downtown.  The apartment is a disaster area, too, so we’ll have to do some work in that department, too.

Tomorrow is the first meeting of the Secular Homeschooler’s group that I am co-starting.  I’m really excited to meet some other homeschoolers!

 

12 February 2009 February 13, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — keekahoney @ 4:44 am

Today was Steve’s day off, and I usually tend to want to do too much because I am so happy to have him around.  Today I thought I’d keep our appointments and activities to a minimum so that he could have some time to do what he wants to do.  Hopefully the day was a bit more balanced for him.

We had to get up kind of early to go to the midwife.  Okay, 10 a.m. isn’t early.  We’re just night owls!  Joanna (my midwife) is fantastic.  She’s just granola enough for my tastes.  And she explains things so well.  Bailey was very interested in the blood pressure cuff and Joanna explained exactly how it works.

After the midwife appointment we went home and hung around for awhile.  Steve did some more work on his website, and Bailey played with her dolls.  After lunch we went to Riverside Park to visit with my Dad and hopefully see the swans again.

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The beach in winter.

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This is a marker at the park showing the different water levels over the years.  The copper bands are flood levels, and you can look through the holes to see the water level from thousands of years ago.

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Here is Bailey pointing to the 1999 flood level marker.  The flood actually happened shortly before her birth, and when my Dad and I took her for a walk in the park a few weeks after her birth the water was still quite high.  It would  probably have covered her feet in this picture.

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It’s a good thing she wasn’t born in 1894!  (That’s what it says next to the top copper band, in case you can’t see.)

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My dad is an excellent photographer.  And he’s really smart, too.  I love spending time with him.

Our walk took about an hour.  We stopped quite a bit, and we actually walked fairly slowly because all I can do now is waddle, lol.  We didn’t see any swans (except for one on the other side of the river) but it was still nice to get out into the fresh air.

Steve, Bailey, and I went to Tim Horton’s to warm up after our walk.  Then we went home and lazed about.  Steve did some more website work, Bailey played, and I napped.  Now Steve is at rapier practice, and Bailey is cleaning the hamster’s cage.  Soon she’ll be in bed and I’ll have a couple precious hours to myself!

 

11 February 2009 February 12, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — keekahoney @ 1:22 am

We’ve had another couple of uneventful days here.  Pyjama-wearing, TV-watching, book-reading, internet-surfing days.  Today, Bailey woke up with a cough and a bit of sore throat, so I guess that explains why she’s been so quiet and moody lately.

Something very upsetting happened a couple nights ago.  Remember how bio-dad came up a little while ago and I was happy because they actually had a good visit?  Bailey was in tears the other night, and finally revealed to us that her dad had been drinking and driving that day.  We have been very cautious about letting him drive with her in the past, and Steve actually refused to let her go with him one day because he smelled of alcohol.  (Steve didn’t refuse the visit, though.  He offered to drive Bailey up to bio-dad’s.)  This time he didn’t smell of booze when he picked Bailey up so I let her go with no problem. 

I really don’t have words to describe how angry I am.  I let Bailey know that to keep her safe we would not be allowing him to drive her anywhere ever again.  She was okay with that, and in fact she told me she doesn’t really want to see him again anyway.  😦  That is so sad. 

And now it is left to me and Steve to deal with bio-dad’s actions.  I don’t know what to do.  I think child protection would be on my side if I refused visitation due to safety concerns, but I am more worried about how to discuss this with him.  I don’t have a phone number for him, and I don’t know if he gets my emails.  Also, I don’t think he will take me seriously.  To me, even one beer (and Bailey tells me it was closer to three total, along with some clear liquid in a square, glass bottle) while driving — especially with one’s child in the car — is evidence of utter stupidity and lack of giving a shit about other people’s safety.  To him, I am hysterical, and over-reacting.

AARGH!  Enough about that.  Now back to your regularly scheduled blog.

She and Steve went swimming last night, and we went for a short walk today to the video store where I used to work.  She lost a tooth last night and the toonie that the tooth fairy brought her was burning a hole in her pocket.  The video store has the best candy in our neighbourhood, so off we went!

I was looking back at my past blog posts, and I realized how much more interesting the one post with pictures looks.  So, here is a picture from the birthday party we went to on the weekend.  The birthday boy is on the right.  Isn’t he little? 

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And, in case you’re interested, here is our first official family photo, taken shortly after Steve and I were declared husband and wife on July 5, 2008.  (Actually, we got legally married on Canada Day but that was a holiday  Tuesday and too difficult to plan for.  We wanted out anniversary to be July 1 though so that’s why we had two weddings!)  Excuse my face, it’s not the best photo.  Concentrate on my beautiful Bailey instead.  🙂

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And there you have it.  An uneventful, yet drama-filled blog post.  Complete with pictures!

 

9 February 2009 February 9, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — keekahoney @ 8:28 pm

Okay, I feel better now.

I’m still huge, and I still worry, but I feel better.

I think it helped that we went for a quick trip out of town yesterday.  Steve had the opportunity to go to a rapier practice in Vernon and while we couldn’t really afford it we decided that the harm to our budget was worth it, and off we went.  It wasn’t particularly fun; Vernon on a Sunday afternoon is about as dull as Kamloops on a Sunday afternoon.  All we did was go to the mall for a  little snack, drop Steve off at his practice and then Bailey and I wandered around their Wal-Mart for a couple hours.  Then we all went to Denny’s for supper and drove home.  However, the change of scenery did us all some good.  Not having to worry about waking up in time for school on Monday was another bonus.

On Saturday we went to a 1st birthday party for my friend’s baby.  He is sooo cute and little.  He’s only 17 lbs., but he is happy, active, and eating like a horse so nobody is worried.  He has been walking since he was 8 or 9 months old (!) and it’s so neat to see this tiny person toddling around.

Saturday night, Bailey initiated a discussion about puberty.  She actually started talking with Steve (he seems to be her go-to guy when it comes to questions about puberty) but invited me to join them when I walked by.  I am so thrilled that she feels safe talking about this with us.  There is No. Way. In. Hell. that I would have talked to my parents when I was a kid.  They really tried to be open-minded and always gave me the impression that they’d be happy to tell me anything I wanted to know, but the idea of talking to them horrified me!  I don’t know how I lucked out with Bailey.  I’m hoping it’s because I’ve always been open with her.  She came to rehearsals of The Vagina Monologues as a preschooler (I was involved in producing and acting in the show for a few years)… maybe that helped?

Today Bailey slept in until 9:30 a.m.!  I was glad for that.  Her sleep has definitely improved since I pulled her out of school, but she still has trouble falling and staying asleep.  We’re increasing her physical activity (or trying to, at least) and trying to keep to a consistent bedtime.  I know many unschoolers don’t do the bedtime thing, but I’m just not there yet.  She doesn’t have to go to sleep when it’s “bedtime” but she does need to stay in her room and read quietly if she doesn’t want to close her eyes.  Steve and I need couple/alone time.

She has spent the morning writing a song, and is now watching music videos on Steve’s computer.  I think we’ll go for a little walk later and then I’ll play outside with her.  I can’t do much, but I figure I can sit on the front steps of our apartment building and throw her a ball.

Hopefully Steve will take her swimming tonight, but he was up until 3:45 a.m. working on his website!